Bad News!

Date Edge will shut down on May 1, 2018.

We’re very sorry to see it go. Unfortunately, we haven’t been able to give the site and the users the time that they deserve. They software and site design has languished, basically neglected for a few years now. Additionally, neither of us has the time to properly ensure that Date Edge isn’t a vector for spam, abuse or harassment. Two things:

  1. If you want an archival copy of your profile and your direct messages, email and we’ll email it to you after we close the site down.
  2. If you have a success story, we’d still love to hear them. The site has been up and running for about five years. We’ve heard of a few love stories. If you’ve found love or friendship through the site, tell us all about it!

— 💔 Shane & Bookis

Date Edge does not ever post to your Twitter or Facebook for you.
Shane Becker’s photobooth from a Pete and Pete reunion show in LA

Shane Becker @veganstraightedge

Shane came up with the idea for Date Edge in (originally called Straightedge Date until John Barnette pointed the now obvious word play). He put up an “enter your email to be notified we launch” one-page website and then promptly put it on the back burner. Until…

Bookis Smuin’s yearbook photo from freshman year of high school

Bookis Smuin @bookis

…years later Bookis was chatting with Shane wondering whatever happened to that idea. He learned that it had sat dormant mostly for lack of a partner in crime. He dove in to help see it through. Bookis programmed all of the bits. Shane designed all of the pixels.

We’ve intentionally kept Date Edge very simple. You can only do a few things with other people on this site. We believe that a dating site should stay out of the way.

Find people, look at their high-level labels, then message them. Talk to other humans, find out if you’re a good match, then go on a date.



If you want to start talking with someone, this button will start a conversation. Keep it positive. Be friendly. Have fun.


A bookmark is like a secret crush. They'll be saved to your list for future visits, but they won't know that you're crushing on them. (Don't be a creep, though.) Only you can see this.


Just like the un-crush button, this will remove your bookmark. No harm, no foul.


If you think you like someone, crush on them. This button will let them know that you have a crush on them. It'll also put them in your list of crushes for future visits. Only you and them can see this.


If you change your mind later, that’s okay. This button will remove your crush.

Flag As Inappropriate

If a photo or person feels out of line to you, let us know and we'll look into it.

Un-Flag As Inappropriate

Just like the un-crush button, this will remove your flagging of inappropriateness. No harm, no foul.


If you really don't want to ever see a person, you can block them.


To unblock someone, you have to go directly to their profile and click the unblock button.



Let’s be honest. We use the web to look at photos of each other. We all hope to find someone who is attractive to us, and that finds us attractive. So, add lots of good photos of you to your profile.

Personal Details

We ask very few questions about you for your profile. The best bios profiles are the most complete ones. You can use the free-form text bio to tell people more than the very high-level statistics. What’s your story?

Contact Information

Twitter @dateedge

Tweet at us. We're pretty friendly.


Want to go old school? That’s fine. We still use and love the emails. Fire away.

Instagram @dateedge

If you ‘gram up anything about the site or your dating adventures, mention us so we see it.


#Hashtags #dateedge

#Hashtag all the things. #dateedge on Twitter. #dateedge on Instagram. #dateedge on Facebook. PS. Thanks, Chris Messina!

Date Edge Code of Conduct

All users of Date Edge are required to agree with the following code of conduct. Date Edge owners will enforce this code. We are expecting cooperation from all users to help ensuring a safe environment for everybody.

In short:

  1. Don't be a creep.
  2. Keep it positive.
  3. Have fun.

Contact one of us. We'll do everything we can.

The Quick Version

Date Edge is dedicated to providing a harassment-free website experience for everyone, regardless of gender, sexual orientation, disability, physical appearance, body size, race, or religion. We do not tolerate harassment of website participants in any form. Website participants violating these rules may be sanctioned or expelled from the website without at the discretion of the website organizers.

The Less Quick Version

Harassment includes offensive verbal comments related to gender, sexual orientation, disability, physical appearance, body size, race, religion, sexual images in public spaces, deliberate intimidation, stalking, following, harassing photography or recording, sustained disruption, and unwelcome sexual attention.

Participants asked to stop any harassing behavior are expected to comply immediately.

If a participant engages in harassing behavior, the website organizers may take any action they deem appropriate, including warning the offender or expulsion from the website.

If you are being harassed, notice that someone else is being harassed, or have any other concerns, please contact a member of website staff immediately.

Website staff will be happy to help participants contact security or local law enforcement, provide escorts, or otherwise assist those experiencing harassment to feel safe for the duration of their use of the website. We value your attendance.

We expect participants to follow these rules on the website and website-related social events.

Out of step,
Shane + Bookis